‘Mother India’ a film that took Indian Cinema to its international fame of glory with its Oscar nomination for Best Foreign Language Film (1957). So what special features did the movie boast about? The story of a poor woman who raises her two sons without her husband in rural India, overcoming all hardships and poverty. But sorry, I am not here to discuss Indian Cinema. I am here to discuss “woman” in India and elsewhere.
If we look back to what we Indians were, before and after Independence, I will not lie but we have come this far and have succeeded in uprooting many of the illogical and vague beliefs and superstitions. But to what extent? The above picture of ‘Mother India’ portrays a Woman, a Mother, carrying that heavy plough all by herself. You and me can have two views regarding this; first, that how brave this woman is, irrespective of her physique, her health. Second, how cruel is this world! A woman who is uneducated and is a widower has to do things all by herself.
Sometimes it is advised not to overthink, unless we think for the beneficial of that miserable being. Well, its 2017 now and women in India are educated, career focused, independent and also Head of the Family. So why does the scale of women activeness in India is still considered poor? Perhaps its patriarchal system that has been going on since centuries.
A father still bows his head before the groom and his family members. That bowed old man can pay any amount for the cost of the marriage of his daughter. So still in India, women are “bought and sold” in the name of marriage. A middle class family may not give so much for the daughters weddings, so one thinks that killing the girl child in the womb is the best option! After all sons will bring wealth, and daughters only expenses.
What if the daughter is allowed to live, so what, Sons are sons, the legal heir to the property, the one who will bring maid, oh sorry! bride in the house, the one that will charge money from the woman’s family and treated as a King in the in-laws house. At least the household will get a maid sort of person to manage the cooking and the kids, and mind you, the girl should not be so educated or plus point if she is unemployed. The comes the role of In-laws, the husband is allowed to hit his wife, rape her, verbally accuse her or even burn her to death, but if the woman implies the same to the husband, she is not only divorced but is subject of shame and mockery to her family. Yes to her own family, cause her parents refuse to take her back to the house. Even worse, disown her.
Women’s Day is over, but Women’s Issues aren’t. I don’t know when this gender disparity will end. I don’t know when the families of the girls will begin to take them seriously. I don’t know when the husbands’ family will respect them equally or not. It all depends upon the mind of the Humans, how sick it can get to how naïve it bees. But I want to tell all my fellow readers that empower your girls, your girlfriends, your daughters, sisters, mothers, tell them they have that potentiality that no one has. That one doesn’t need to look down when a man stares you, you just need to stare back, harder. Why to look down as if you are in guilt of the crime that you haven’t done? Take charge of your life, you don’t need to depend on a Man to live your life, he himself depends on a woman for his food and cleanings. You don’t have to say “yes” every time you are forced upon. You don’t have to wait for his thrashings, rise and hand him over the divorce papers and give yourself what you really deserve!
Happy Women’s Day (every day is your day 🙂 )